This week I a viewed an interesting TED talk video, where Pamela Meyer discussed How to Spot a Liar. The most important thing Meyer stated was that first you have to train to be a lie spotter, then to be a truth seeker, and then finally a trust builder. All in that order.
Meyer listed off a number techniques people use to purposefully deceive people and how individuals subconsciously do it. While doing so, Meyer pointed to the fact that “lying is a cooperative act”. If you stop and ponder it, it makes sense. It means that the person receiving the information or lie, must believe it to be truth in order for the conversation to continue to progress. Which begs the question: how often do we not even considered the validity of the previous statement and simply carry on with the conversation? Well, it must be a significant amount since Meyer believes that adults are lied to approximately 10 to 200 times per day! That fact alone should make people second guess or at least question what is being told to them.
Something that I thought needed to more clearly address in the video was the body language segment and how to pick out red flags when someone possibly is lying. The points that Meyer made were interesting, like you can tell a real smile by looking at their eyes, but she didn’t go too far into detail of the others. That might have been due to time constraints, but she could have followed the video up with some articles or more videos to help individuals who want to learn even more about it. This is something that I personally would like to learn. I would love to be able to look at a person’s body language and pick up on the signals that they are giving me and have a good idea if they are lying or telling the truth about what they are telling me.
This all will be extremely important for me as a future teacher, because I want to be able to pick out the lying students from the honest ones. I would want to get it wrong, even once. I am going to be lied to everyday as a teacher. Also, being able to slowly build trust with the students not only helps me, but it also helps the student realize that they have a sense of responsibility to being honest. Something that I think can be overlooked in the classroom settings.
I enjoyed watching this video since it made me realize that I need to be more aware during conversations, not simply chit-chatting with someone. Lastly, all the behaviors and techniques were simply red flags, not concrete information that is the same on everyone. However, if multiple red flags come up, one must begin to question the validity of the statement being received.
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